Having faith is sometimes hard but having faith is also comforting. Sometimes in life, you just know when things aren’t going the way they should. It’s that deep feeling inside, that whisper of intuition telling you something is off. You see it. Maybe it’s in a relationship, a situation at work, or someone else’s choices. You want to step in, fix it, shake things up, or help them see the bigger picture.
But the truth is, that everyone has their own path. And sometimes, the best thing you can do is step back, hold space, and have faith.
It’s hard when you care deeply about someone or something and see things get messy, to see someone living a way that is harder than it needs to be. But the reality is, people grow at their own pace. We’re all on our own journeys, learning through our own experiences. You can’t rush someone else’s process and can’t control how or when they are ready for more openness and growth.
And, that’s where faith comes in again. It’s not about having faith that they’ll follow the path you envisioned for them. It’s about having faith that whatever they figure out, even if it looks completely different from what you hoped for them, is exactly what they need right now for their growth. You can’t measure someone else’s progress by your own expectations.
In "The 30 Day Self Perception Makeover," I talk a lot about releasing control and trusting yourself. And trusting yourself goes hand-in-hand with trusting life. When we stop trying to force things, stop gripping so tightly to how we think things should go, we give space for what’s meant to happen to actually happen.
It’s not about standing by helplessly. It’s about standing by faithfully. Sometimes we have to let others make their choices. We have to watch people take detours, get a little lost, and figure it out for themselves. It’s tough to witness, especially when you feel you have the answers that could help them, but in those moments, remind yourself that you’ve planted the seeds. Now trust they’ll bloom in their own way and their own time.
The reality is maybe their version of success doesn’t match yours for them, you know what they are capable of and maybe they do not see that in themselves. Maybe their way of learning about life is different, and messier, and takes them down a road you never would have chosen for them. But that’s okay. That’s their path.
I’ve learned that faith and worry can’t live in the same space. The more you lean into faith, the more the worry fades away. Faith in the process, faith in the timing, and faith in knowing that everyone is exactly where they need to be in their own story.
Yes, it’s messy. Yes, it can be frustrating to watch people we care about hurt or stumble. But trusting the timing, instead of forcing the outcome is where peace comes from.
So take a deep breath. Hold on to faith. Know that what you’ve poured into others will come back around. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but it will.
Because just like we all have our own journey, we also have our own timing. And in those moments of doubt, remind yourself of the simple truth that everything is already taken care of. You’ve done your part. Now let faith do the rest.
Love, Cathlene
