I was brought up to believe these things:
A sexual woman was a slut.
My place was at home with the kids and I would be looked after financially by my partner.
I needed to get my head out the clouds and live in the real world.
All of these things were total and utter LIES!!
At the grand old age of 43 I am now:
A burlesque Instructor and erotic fiction writer.
Building my own fabulous business empire.
I create my reality, clouds and all!
It took me a while to get here. It took me going through sexual assualt, end of my 25 year marriage, facing being homeless, being bed bound, struggling to financially support myself, following the guidance of people who didn't have a clue who I was and losing my spark and myself!
A few dark night's of the soul!
Yet here I am! Sharing the knowledge and wisdom I have been gifted with more women so they too can feel alive again!
Just before I performed on stage at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe in 2021 I was rushed to hospital with a suspected heart attack. It turned out to be a chronic panic attack, no doubt due to the belief that being the sensual, sexual, scorpio woman that I am is not safe. Being a plus size women and seductively taking my costume off in public meant I was 'asking for it'. All the old belief's and conditionings came in so it was no wonder my nervous system was freaking out!!
I could have cancelled the 7 shows I was signed up to do! I had a valid reason - however I knew that if I didn't do this I was letting my fellow performers and MYSELF down.
So....
I bloody did it!
That first night I was petrified and sure I was going to pass out on stage. But...
I bloody did it!
Each performance became easier and easier as the payoff for the courage I originally had!
I went to the performances fully made up most nights on my own, walking the streets of Edinburgh and I was safe.
I went topless in each performance in front of the audience and I was safe.
My jiggly bits jiggled for all to see and I was safe.
I shared my journey on social media and I was safe.
This created a new belief pattern - a powerful one - that
I am SAFE in my sensuality and sexuality as a powerful, sexy, sassy woman!!
I share this story with my clients and now with you so you too can look at what it is you need to do to get on that stage in your own life!!
To be seen, heard and celebrated in all your magnificence!!
The courage that it takes to show up as a woman in today's world.
Especially as a woman totally owning her sexuality, her abundance with money (and I'm going to say it, a rich woman!) and our Sovereignty!
It makes us powerful and be deemed dangerous!
To those who wish to control us, yes we probably are!
It's why I create programme's and safe spaces for women to show up and shine! To own their bodies, their essence, their abundance and their life!!
It is my mission and something I am passionate about sharing, all day, every day!!
So where are my Sovereign women and the women who are ready to step into their Sovereignty!!
Comment below because I want to CELEBRATE You!!!
All my love,
Stephanie C Starla
Your Guide to Sovereignty
Denise Stancombe 1 y
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