Yes, I’m a single mom and no, I never expected or wanted to be a single mom, does anyone? But as we know life doesn’t always go to plan and likes to throw in some, let’s say curve balls into the mix.

I spent a lot of time so unhappy, and it wasn’t just in my relationship, but in every aspect of life, work was going great, and I hated my body and the way I looked so I avoided mirrors. I woke up many days and thought to myself could I actually make it on my own with the boys, would I be enough for them would I have enough, the life I was living then how much of it would change, how would the boys feel, could I actually do it.  and after some time these voices just faded and didn’t disappear but just wasn’t as loud.

In the early stages of my beta single momhood, I faced the raw, hardcore truths that reshaped my life and reshaped me. Here’s a glimpse into my journey, unfiltered and unedited.

1. Acceptance of Reality: In the initial phase, acceptance was my greatest hurdle. The reality of being a single mom hit hard, and I had to confront the fact that my life had taken an unexpected turn. Acceptance became the cornerstone of my resilience.
2. Embracing Vulnerability: Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness, but I discovered its strength. Admitting that I needed help, that I didn’t have all the answers, was liberating. It opened avenues for support and formed deeper connections with those around me.
3. Financial Tightrope: Financial challenges became a daily tightrope walk. Navigating bills, budgeting, and providing for my family solo demanded a new level of resourcefulness. It was a daunting but empowering journey of financial independence.
4. Navigating Co-Parenting Dynamics: Co-parenting complexities unfolded as I learned to balance my role as a parent while respecting the dynamics with my ex-partner. Setting boundaries, effective communication, and prioritizing the well-being of our child became paramount.
5. Loneliness and Self-Discovery: Loneliness was a companion, but it also provided an opportunity for self-discovery. I delved into activities I was passionate about, rediscovered old hobbies, and learned that being alone doesn’t equate to loneliness.
6. Building a Support System: Recognizing the importance of a support system was a game-changer. Whether it was friends, family, or fellow single moms, having a network to lean on was crucial. I learned to ask for help and found strength in shared experiences.
7. Coping with Guilt: Guilt crept in from different angles – guilt about the impact on my child, guilt for taking time for myself, and guilt for not living up to societal expectations. Managing and overcoming this guilt required constant self-reflection.
8. Redefining Success: Early on, success looked different. It wasn’t about societal standards; it was about survival, resilience, and the love and stability I provided for my child. Redefining success on my terms became a liberating experience.
9. Navigating Dating as a Single Mom: The world of dating introduced a new layer of complexity. Balancing personal life with parenting responsibilities demanded honesty, communication, and a willingness to prioritize both aspects of my life.
10. The Unfiltered Journey: My early stage beta single mom journey was far from perfect, but it was authentic. Every stumble, tear, and triumph contributed to the unfiltered narrative that shaped not just my life but the lives of those closest to me.

Conclusion: Being a beta single mom is an evolving journey, filled with lessons, growth, and a redefined sense of self. It’s a journey of authenticity, vulnerability, and discovering strengths I never knew I possessed. As I continue navigating this uncharted territory, I embrace the raw, hardcore truths that make my story uniquely mine.