Working with domestic abuse survivors and their children is a rewarding thing that I do. The stories are real. The trauma is deep. But so is the strength.
Over the years, I’ve learned that staying positive isn't about ignoring the pain, it’s about looking forward, grounding yourself daily, and choosing hope over fear.
Here’s how I keep my spirit lifted every morning, no matter what yesterday brought:
Starting Each Day with Intention, Gratitude, and Hope
When you work in a space where emotional stories are raw and real, like supporting survivors of domestic abuse and their children, it’s easy to carry that weight with you. But I’ve learned something powerful, if I want to show up strong for others, I have to start by showing up for myself.
Here’s how I do that, every single morning.
Gratitude Before Anything Else
Before I even get out of bed, literally, as soon as I open my eyes, I think of five things I’m grateful for. It could be my warm cup of decaf coffee waiting in the kitchen, the joyful energy of my grand Yorkie, or just the fact that I get to breathe another day. This practice keeps me rooted in the good, even when things feel heavy.
Positivity In, First Thing
While making my coffee, I put something positive in my ears, uplifting music, an encouraging podcast, or a few affirming words. It helps direct my mindset before the world has a chance to sway it.
Then, it’s time to take my little Yorkie out for a short walk. There’s something about seeing the world in the dark and the stars in the sky that gives me energy and peace all at once.
Move to Shift Energy
After our walk, I head to the gym. I like to read a short, meaningful passage beforehand, something spiritual, inspirational, or just grounding.
Just a couple of quick questions in my journal can shape the entire day:
How do I want to feel today?
What’s one small thing I can do to uplift someone else?
Writing it down makes it real. It gives me direction and intention, not just reaction.
Moving my body isn’t just about staying physically fit; it’s how I process emotion, release tension, and reset my mindset. Physical movement helps clear mental heaviness and makes room for clarity and joy.
As I move through my workout, I consciously shift my mind toward the future, the possibility. I don’t just reflect on where I have been or the survivors I work with have been; I visualize where I am going, where they’re going. I see them living in safety, smiling with their children, and rebuilding beautiful lives. That vision keeps me focused and full of hope.
Each morning, I say to myself, This is a new day. I honor the stories I’ve heard, but I don’t let them follow me into today. Yesterday had its time. Today deserves my full presence.
Remember the Why, Not the Wounds
At the end of the day, my role isn’t to relive trauma, it’s to help transform it. That’s why I keep close to my heart. The healing. The growth. The strength that emerges, even after the storm.
Every single day is a chance to show survivors and their children what’s possible. But it starts with me showing myself the same love, patience, and hope I want them to believe in.
If you're someone who works in a helping field, or if you simply carry emotional weight from the lives you touch, I hope this inspires you to create your own morning rhythm. One that lifts you up, even as you lift others.
Because you deserve it, too.
Cathlene
